Tuesday, September 23, 2008

For GMR...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Aloha Party at HSB
9-23-08

“Greater than scene is situation. Greater than situation is implication. Greater than all of these is a single, entire human being, who will never be confined in any frame.”

Eudora Welty

gmr...

Cheers and thanks to you and your wise teachings of living, being, and practicing outside of the "frame." And, the ripple effects multiply and flourish...

-grassrootsmsw-

Monday, September 15, 2008

Anyway...


photo by grassrootsmsw


"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.

Yet….

Give your best anyway.”

-Mother Teresa-


Each and every one of us carries our histories and stories. We all honor and celebrate that which has created the joy, love, and happiness in our lives.' We savor each precious moment and person who made us smile and laugh...it is part of what defines who we are, how far we have come, and how we move forth.

We have countless ingredients that build upon the kaleidocope of what is our life.

Often, what can be more defining and shaping are the painful stories which have created the feelings of loss, grief and sadness within us. These are the stories we tightly hold close, in a secret part of ourselves.' Holding this in isolation, seemingly protects us from judgment, and sometimes from a truth that is too painful to place or voice in the light of day. After all, we live in a world and society that prefers to see strength and resilience. Innately, the human instinct draws us to fit into a world where we belong and are understood and accepted. And, yes, most people want to be surrounded by happy and positive...

But what about those who have experiences and secret demons and can't find their way back to the happy places'? What about those who suffer silently, just because they don't want to be rejected or don't want to burden others' with their troubles'?

What if each of us reached out to someone whose pain was silent but recognizable and just offered presence without questions or solution? Their pain...our pain...it may be different in source, but it is still pain.

I am thinking of a special and dear colleague...her pain is real and how she has been secretly coping reminds me that we, as a society, can do better, heal more, and learn to embrace that which is scary or foreign to us. It's about accepting and holding humanity in every form, without judgment, and always with an open mind and heart.

-grassrootsmsw-




Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Untangling the roots...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Hendri's Beach
SB, CA


Deepak Chopra: Obama and The Palin Effect


Posted: September 4th, 2008

Sometimes politics has the uncanny effect of mirroring the national psyche even when nobody intended to do that. This is perfectly illustrated by the rousing effect that Gov. Sarah Palin had on the Republican convention in Minneapolis this week. On the surface, she outdoes former Vice President Dan Quayle as an unlikely choice, given her negligent parochial expertise in the complex affairs of governing. Her state of Alaska has less than 700,000 residents, which reduces the job of governor to the scale of running one-tenth of New York City. By comparison, Rudy Giuliani is a towering international figure. Palin's pluck has been admired, and her forthrightness, but her real appeal goes deeper.

She is the reverse of Barack Obama, in essence his shadow, deriding his idealism and exhorting people to obey their worst impulses. In psychological terms the shadow is that part of the psyche that hides out of sight, countering our aspirations, virtue, and vision with qualities we are ashamed to face: anger, fear, revenge, violence, selfishness, and suspicion of "the other." For millions of Americans, Obama triggers those feelings, but they don't want to express them. He is calling for us to reach for our higher selves, and frankly, that stirs up hidden reactions of an unsavory kind. (Just to be perfectly clear, I am not making a verbal play out of the fact that Sen. Obama is black. The shadow is a metaphor widely in use before his arrival on the scene.)

I recognize that psychological analysis of politics is usually not welcome by the public, but I believe such a perspective can be helpful here to understand Palinʼs message. In her acceptance speech Gov. Palin sent a rousing call to those who want to celebrate their resistance to change and a higher vision.

Look at what she stands for:

--Small town values -- a denial of America's global role, a return to petty, small-minded parochialism.

--Ignorance of world affairs -- a repudiation of the need to repair America's image abroad.

--Family values -- a code for walling out anybody who makes a claim for social justice. Such strangers, being outside the family, don't need to be heeded.

--Rigid stands on guns and abortion -- a scornful repudiation that these issues can be negotiated with those who disagree.

--Patriotism -- the usual fallback in a failed war.

--"Reform" -- an italicized term, since in addition to cleaning out corruption and excessive spending, one also throws out anyone who doesn't fit your ideology.

Palin reinforces the overall message of the reactionary right, which has been in play since 1980, that social justice is liberal-radical, that minorities and immigrants, being different from "us" pure American types, can be ignored, that progressivism takes too much effort and globalism is a foreign threat. The radical right marches under the banners of "I'm all right, Jack," and "Why change? Everything's OK as it is." The irony, of course, is that Gov. Palin is a woman and a reactionary at the same time. She can add mom to apple pie on her resume, while blithely reversing forty years of feminist progress. The irony is superficial; there are millions of women who stand on the side of conservatism, however obviously they are voting against their own good. The Republicans have won multiple national elections by raising shadow issues based on fear, rejection, hostility to change, and narrow-mindedness.

Obama's call for higher ideals in politics can't be seen in a vacuum. The shadow is real; it was bound to respond. Not just conservatives possess a shadow -- we all do. So what comes next is a contest between the two forces of progress and inertia. Will the shadow win again, or has its furtive appeal become exhausted? No one can predict. The best thing about Gov. Palin is that she brought this conflict to light, which makes the upcoming debate honest. It would be a shame to elect another Reagan, whose smiling persona was a stalking horse for the reactionary forces that have brought us to the demoralized state we are in. We deserve to see what we are getting, without disguise.

Thursday, September 04, 2008

Interpreting Open versus Closed


photo by grassrootsmsw
Casco Viejo, Panama

"We all operate in two contrasting modes, which might be called open and closed. The open mode is more relaxed, more receptive, more exploratory, more democratic, more playful and more humorous. The closed mode is the tighter, more rigid, more hierarchical, more tunnel-visioned. Most people, unfortunately spend most of their time in the closed mode. Not that the closed mode cannot be helpful. If you are leaping a ravine, the moment of takeoff is a bad time for considering alternative strategies. When you charge the enemy machine-gun post, don't waste energy trying to see the funny side of it. Do it in the "closed" mode. But the moment the action is over, try to return to the "open" mode—to open your mind again to all the feedback from our action that enables us to tell whether the action has been successful, or whether further action is need to improve on what we have done. In other words, we must return to the open mode, because in that mode we are the most aware, most receptive, most creative, and therefore at our most intelligent."

John Cleese




Thursday, August 28, 2008

The Path of Common Purpose...


photo by grassrootsmsw

“Our government should work for us, not against us. It should help us, not hurt us. It should ensure opportunity not just for those with the most money and influence, but for every American who's willing to work.

That's the promise of America - the idea that we are responsible for ourselves, but that we also rise or fall as one nation; the fundamental belief that I am my brother's keeper; I am my sister's keeper.

Individual responsibility and mutual responsibility - that's the essence of America's promise.”

Barack Obama

DNC, 8-28-08

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Thanks to D.P.


photo by grassrootsmsw

"We don't accomplish anything in the world alone...whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one's life and all the weaving's of individual threads from one to another that creates something."

Sandra Day O’Connor

For D.P....

Thank you for all that you have shared and given with commitment, truth, and an open heart.

The story and connections are to be continued...

Stay tuned...



Friday, August 15, 2008

A Gathering of Solitude



photo by J.A.S.
NYC

"Our disasters come from letting nothing live for itself,
from the longing we have to pull everything,
even friends,
into ourselves,
and let nothing alone."

-Robert Bly-

Friday, August 01, 2008

Imperfect being...


phot by grassrootsmsw


“It is through being wounded that power grows and can, in the end, become tremendous”

Friedrich Nietzsche

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

"Do the Right Thing"



photo by grassrootsmsw
Savannah , GA
2008

“It's the action, not the fruit of the action, that's important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there'll be any fruit. But that doesn't mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.”

Gandhi



Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Vision and Result(s)


photo by grassrootsmsw
Solana Beach, CA 2007

“Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. The ability to direct individual accomplishments toward organizational objectives. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.”

Andrew Carnegie

We still believe and hope...

We will never stop trying...

Our purpose and
our dedication
to this work
depends on this...

-grassrootsmsw-

Sunday, July 06, 2008

The "Gap"



photo by grassrootsmsw
"The Gap Fire"
Goleta, CA 2008

“We are here to awaken from the illusion of our separateness....”

Thich Nhat Hanh


It always amazes me that it often requires a large scale disaster, to bring people together...911, Katrina, fires, floods, earthquakes...why do we wait to hold, honor, and stand united until there is catastrophe?

We are all here on this place, we call Earth...we all experience moments of joy, loss, heart ache, love, and everything in between. Owning our individuality is important, but holding on to our "separateness" can divide us.

Coexist...can we? Regardless of our individualness? I think each of us can...I think each of us should...with or without disaster. Connectedness and understanding, is, after all, the innate need of all human beings.'

Coexisting, with compassion and openness, to all that is known and known...I dare everyone to just try.

-grassrootsmsw-


Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Tomato Juice, please...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Alabama, Farmer's market

“Effective teamwork is all about making a good, well-balanced salad,

not whipping individuals into a single batch of V8.”

Sandra Richardson

Friday, June 20, 2008

Coming Home...

NL, 2008

“The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don't, but in the end they're the people you always come home to. Sometimes it's the family you're born into and sometimes it's the one you make for yourself.”

Carrie: ‘Sex and the City’

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Freedom from parameters...



photo by D.B.L.
Kenya, Africa

“Anytime we see systems in apparent chaos, our training urges us to interfere, to stabilize and shore things up. But if we can trust the workings of chaos, we will see that the dominant shape of our organizations can be maintained if we retain clarity about the purpose and direction of the organization. If we succeed in maintaining focus, rather than hands-on control, we also create the flexibility and responsiveness that every organization craves. What leaders are called upon to do in a chaotic world is to shape their organizations through concepts, not through elaborate rules or structures.”

Margaret J. Wheatley


Tuesday, June 10, 2008

The Sacred Purpose...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Floating Market, Thailand
2008

“Nothing happens in the quantum world without something encountering something else. Nothing is independent of the relationships that occur. I am constantly creating the world - evoking it, not discovering it - as I participate in all its many interactions. This is a world of process, not a world of things.”

Margaret J. Wheatley

Always, always, the process...

-grassrootsmsw-

Monday, June 02, 2008

Organic flow...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Central Park, NYC

"This fundamental truth of the self can be realized only if the individual is willing and courageous enough to follow to some natural conclusion,

this moment of experience,
this facing the unknown,

and participating with the total commitment of the self.

Such expression, such passion for life
may emerge in written, spoken, graphic
or aesthetic forms in relation or in isolation;
in I-Thou encounters; and in silent, inner experience.

A compassionate willingness is required -
as is the courage to live before the fact,
before the understanding,
before any rational support or certainty,
to live the moment to its natural peak and conclusion,
and to accept with dignity whatever joy, grief,
misfortune, or unexpectedness occurs."

Clark Moustakas

Monday, May 26, 2008

Gaggling on...


photo by grassrootsmsw

“The family. We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another's desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together.”

Erma Bombeck

After a week of visits from special family members, I am a mix of bittersweet emotions...
I feel so fortunate to be part of a family that remains connected despite distance of continents...we can always start where we left off; we laugh and retell stories we have heard many times over; we accept and embrace one another, even knowing the worst, and we know how to care for one another without words. It is this deep connection that always makes the 'goodbyes' that much harder...a quiet sense of loss, a full heart of gratitude, and a hopeful anticipation for their next visit.

-grassrootsmsw-

Monday, May 12, 2008

Free thinkers...


photo by E.F de Jonge
Seppel
NL, 1963

“To be playful is not to be trivial or frivolous, or to act as though nothing of consequence will happen. On the contrary, when we are playful with each other we relate as free persons, and the relationship is open to surprise; everything that happens is of consequence. It is, in fact, seriousness that closes itself to consequence, for seriousness is a dread of the unpredictable outcome of open possibility. To be serious is to press for a specified conclusion. To be playful is to allow for possibility whatever the cost to oneself.”

James Carse

Play with a full heart,
Love with integrity and truth,
Laugh deep belly laughs.

Hold onto your truths' and
own them,
but try to let the lightness in...
the balance we all need.

Let the freedom of that choice in!

Cheers!

-grassrootsmsw-


Tuesday, May 06, 2008

Time Outs'...


photo by grassrootsmsw
Kanchanaburi, Thailand


"When we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago."

Friedrich Nietzsche

Being a pioneer in a rigid and static system constantly requires energy, endurance, and an unswerving commitment to change.

Despite a dedicated belief and internal honor system, the uphill battle often induces feelings of exhaustion...a need for a 'time out' and a heavy exhaled yawn.

Yawn, roll over, hibernate, rest. Regenerate.

The goals and purposes remain, but can only be addressed when we have stopped to breathe, rejuvenate, and reassemble the game plan.

Yawn and rest...yawn and rest...

There is still climbing to be done and aspirations to be reached.

-grassrootsmsw-

Friday, May 02, 2008

The slippery slope...


photo by J.A.S.

"Let go of your attachment to being right, and suddenly your mind is more open. You're able to benefit from the unique viewpoints of others, without being crippled by your own judgment."

Ralph Marston